Let he who is Without Sin…

24 Sep

When I first heard the news about Bishop Eddie Long, everybody who isn’t a member of ANY CHURCH started to bother me. Not because they are the main ones  throwing stones and they don’t belong to ANY ONE’S church. But because of the harsh and brutal words they had against this man. Many failed to realize that before he is a preacher and before he is a Bishop he is a HUSBAND/FATHER and even before that he is a man. He is a man who has feelings and one who has to provide for his family.

What the media has FAILED to mention is that Bishop Long and his church have contributed millions of Dollars to not only the Dekalb County School System but to various organization, political campaigns and has bought cars, meals, food, houses for so many of his members. How many of you can say that today you HELPED somebody OTHER than yourself?!

But this blog isn’t on my opnion on the scandal of this Bishop, because

  1. Its not my place to judge him
  2. I am  not a member of his church or his family
  3. I respect and have extreme admiration for this man regardless of this situation
  4. I know his son and was once a classmate and friend of his.
  5. The court of public opinion has already demeaned him guilty and he has yet to confirm the charges or even go to court for them
  6. Bishop Long will come out from this, no matter if his church folds, his wife leaves or he has to pay out Millions. He will always be a man ordained by God and you can not take that from him
  7. How would YOU feel if someone told about every thing you had done out to the media, you would probably be in jail.

Now  that I  got that on  out the way… on to the blog…

“The Homophobia and sexophobia of black church leaders can be found in their literature, preaching, and revivalism.” Anthea Baker

When I was about 8, I met my 1st gay man. He was in fact married and he was in fact not openly gay. He did my mother’s hair and was very well known through the city. It wasn’t until I was older and in high school that I met my 1st openly Gay woman. I never quite understood the dynamic. Call it growing up in a sheltered lifestyle or growing up in the church. I never understood what “Gay” meant.  I went to church where homosexuality was not discussed, I came home and it wasn’t discussed.  I really had to learn it on my own and I must admit other than the harsh words that the black community has had to say about homosexuality I had to learn that the sin wasn’t in being gay but the sin is in homophobia.

Yes in Leviticus 20:!3  it says NKJV: (New King James Version) “If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination. They shall surely be put to death. Their blood shall be upon them.” but somehow the  church seems to forget the 10 Commandments.  I won’t do bible commentary in this blog but the sin is the hating of others.  How can we believe in this scripture but also believe the commandment that says “THOU SHALL NOT KILL”

When a person in the bible asked JESUS HIMSELF what the biggest commandment was he said  in Matthew 22:36“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” 37Jesus replied: ” ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. 38This is the first and greatest commandment.39And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

How can we possibly call ourselves Christians and we don’t love other who are lesbians.   When I went to a good friend of mine’s wedding a month ago, I put the pictures on my facebook and my phone went insane. I got every question asking if I was lesbian and so forth because it was a lesbian commitment. I will not discuss m personal preference in this blog, because like i always say, the people who know me, know whom I choose to love and be with. I don’t put people in a box, the feelings that the homophobic have often change when they find out a member of their family is gay or a dear friend decides to come “out”.

The very scripture that we use so often John 7 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her” is about a WOMAN.  Why is it that we condemn so harshly the women who has committed the crime but not the man, why is it we want to condemn homosexuality but let those who commit adultery, kill and steal get a pass. When a man admits he is gay not only does his family and his friend condemn him but he is liable to loose his job and his place in society.  We have got to stop!  I know we hold preachers and men/women in power to a different level and God does as well, but remember that it’s not about YOU. Before you cast the first stone know that you yourself have sinned. Instead of calling out what you think is NEGATIVE, be positive and help somebody!

Shoot me I’m a lover and I love people, despite their flaws and their desires. I pray that you learn to do the same

Verbal Intercourse

13 Sep

When I started my blog it was a way to vent or release. But it has turned into more than that. People read my blog to be nosey Don’t lie, I know you do. Some people read it for encouragement and some people just read to be informed. Whatever the reason you read it, I hope that my life blesses you in some degree.

I started to think about the things that most of the people that know me via Twitter, Facebook, my blog don’t know about me. Because, truth of the matter is, I’m like a Vidalia Onion. You see I often doubt my self-worth, I can cook very well, better than mosts folks I know, but more importantly I LOVE to cook for people.  But more than the superficial things about me, I have a serious thing for Verbal Intercourse. I love to be intimate with my significant other using words. Reaching down into each other’s spirits and pulling out the very  things that plague our souls and our hearts.

In reality I can’t have those types of relationships with everyone because then it connects them to me. I can’t help but to feel spiritually connected to someone after I have let them take a glimpse into my soul. But I have figured out that those who you thought you had a spiritual connection with can hurt you as well. Its not the kind of heartbreak we get when someone we love cheats or the relationship sours.  Its the type of feeling that even the most descriptive of words can’t describe. It literally feels like the person God intended on being your soul mate just died. Like you lost a part of yourself in someone and they don’t even have a clue that it happened.

Not saying I’m so old in age, but I don’t get to experience spiritual connections often. I have been in 3 serious relationships my entire life and we NEVER got to that kind of spiritual level, so when I finally met someone that I had that kind of connection, I was honestly trying to keep that person in my life because to some degree they were my soul mate.  But when you intervene with God’s plans there are consequences. What should have been a platonic spiritual connection turned into an emotion filled long ride.. But if that situation taught me anything it was that in real-life fairytales, u don’t need someone to save u, just someone who can let u save yourself. This person helped me to find myself and I will always be grateful for them..

So now in my current situation, I have found that I am longing for verbal intimacy. That is more important to me than actual physical intimacy.  I need someone to reach so deep inside my inner thoughts that I have no idea they are even doing it.  I’m growing day by day and I have realized that all the superficial things we desire in a mate don’t matter if we don’t have a soulful connection to someone.  The feeling of being literally re-energized and full of the spirit of God. I’ve learned that the Holy Spirit speaks through other people and I know that people speak to me directly from her!!

Algebra said it best when she sang “Its the same old story, just another lifetime, Girl wants to be  rescued, from all the hard times.  You can be Prince Charming, I’ll be Cinderella. Don’t want a fairytale, just give me ever after.”

I pray that in this new relationship we get to the level of verbal intercourse that I desire if its God’s will.  Although the entire way I am approaching our situation is different and new, I see that all of the things that happened before now prepared me for this exact moment.  Everything doesn’t happen according to when we want it to happen. There are men who desire to take it slow and build up to intimacy of any form and I adore that. I adore the fact that I’m excited about seeing someone and its not on a physical form. I adore the fact that someone remembers the things I say and actually does them! I am even more excited for the moment we can have verbal intercourse.. I can feel it coming..

I now understand that I have always wanted to hang on to that initial  soulmate fixation. TV, church and even our family teaches us that’s what love and spiritual connections is supposed to be. So we run around searching for external gratification and constant verbal gratification when in reality its, its  something we really can’t maintain.

I thank God for my circumstances and situations because it taught me that God intended love to be more logical just by the fact that he  commanded us to love.  We don’t get to choose love, God gives it to us. If biblical love is a conscious decision, why are we searching for something we “fall” into? One day I will be in love and I now understand that  the person I choose to commit myself to  will be someone who will not just commit himself to me the way God commanded us to love each other but will understand the spiritual connection.

I know everybody ain’t that “deep” but don’t settle for a companion when God has sent you a soul mate that will revive your heart body and mind on a daily basis.

Peace and Blessings

Eat,Pray,Love

4 Sep

I have been having some serious life changing moments this year. It started on my Birthday August 9th. I decided to take myself on a trip. I kept asking myself, where could I go for under $400 and I didn’t have to drive for 3 days. NYC was out of the question, LA was way to expensive,Miami was too fancy.

So I thought about the things I love so much: Seafood, water and Music. Upon further research I discovered that Erykah Badu (My favorite Artist) was playing a concert in Columbia,Maryland. The closest airport to Columbia is Baltimore. So the next day, I purchased a plane/hotel and a week later flew to Bmore. For 3 days I ate, I went to church, I slept and I didn’t touch a computer once. It felt so good to be away from home and be balanced. Other than the concert, I didn’t really “go out” everything was in walking distance of my hotel. I really was @ peace with myself and my future. And taking a trip alone turned out to be the best decision I ever made.

So tonight. September 3rd Friday. I was talking to a business associate about my weekend plans. When I told him, I didn’t have any other than working and church and sleep he said “its a holiday, do something you enjoy doing” so when I left work, I had almost but decided to go to the bar to have a drink, but I decided against it, I checked the movie times in the small theater by my house and went to go see “Eat, Pray, Love.”

I’ll admit when the whole phenomena was going on about “EPL” I wasn’t enthused. I some how ended up with 2 copies of this book (which at time of writing this blog I can’t find either :( )and I couldn’t get through the book. There was too many internal thoughts going on, and honestly @ the time I had too much going on to read about some rich white lady and her issues when I was a middle class black woman working pay check to pay check.

But the Spirit led me to see this movie alone and it truly was an epiphany. This movie spoke to me on more than 1 level. I probably could write a book on my experiences just because of the inspiration of this book. It has really changed my thinking.

I have a short mental bucket list of things I want to do before my next birthday a year from now and 1 of them includes taking another trip alone. And I encourage every woman to do the same. The author of this book who the movie was themed after taught me a lot but the main point is this: Balance.

I’ve tried my whole life to juggle when I really needed to learn how to Balance..

Eat, Pray, Love

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Happiness

3 Sep

In 2008 my church member 10 year old Olivia Hayes got hit by an armored truck at her bus stop and a few days later died. She was so full of life and a the middle of 3 children. I saw her and her parents and siblings week after week as she ushered and sang in the choir.  She even led a song in the choir and I will never forget.  When Olivia was in the hospital, a church member told the story about how she constantly saw yellow butterflies, while Olivia was in the hospital and gave all of us at the church butterfly pins while Olivia was in the hospital.  For the days she was in the hospital and even at her funeral, these butterflies were our hope, they were our peace and a guardian angel that was Olivia Nicole Hayes. I have Olivia’s obituary and funeral program and I look at it daily.

I believe that when God takes a child’s life its a precious and serious thing, in the little time Olivia was alive she changed so many people’s lives.  Earlier that year my coworker lost her 16 year old son to heart disease. I often questioned why God would take them at such a young age. But I know that God is in control.

Have you ever felt like things weren’t going your way or that the plans of your life were not as planned. Well they are exactly how God intended them to be. We may not have the  things we desire in life but God has a bigger plan.

For the past 2 weeks I have been seeing yellow butterflies everyday, not 1 or 2 butterflies but at least 3 a day. I laugh every time I see them and I even told “him” about my sightings and he never sees them. I know this is a confirmation from God that great things are on the horizon. I am blessed beyond measure and I have been filled with Joy for the past 2 days. I have no words to describe how happy I am at this point in my life. Not because of the things I have , but because of the awesome people I have around me and the endless possibilities that are occurring in my life . I truly know that the best is RIGHT around the corner! My love life is not exactly where I want it to be, my best friend is in NYC but God has a huge major plan that is about to happen to me soon, very soon and I am overwhelmed with Joy about the possibilities!

Have faith! The things that are impossible to us are ever so simple in the sight of  God. How great is our God? He’s greater than words could ever describe. This joy that I have the world didn’t give it to me, no person or thing can ever take the joy that GOD has given me.  I praise his name forever more!

Thank God for Butterflies!

How much attention do we need?

2 Sep

The last guy I dated we will call him Eastside was special to me. Maybe it was his gap, or his crazy laugh or maybe it was the way he would hold me close. Whatever it was he had me open. We really never had a title or rules. All he asked of me was honesty and all I asked of him was attention, and affection. That’s really all I want from any guy I date. Attention and Affection and Admiration.

I’m a Leo in every form or fashion. I like to be in charge, I love to look nice, I love to be held and kissed and I like for someone to tell me how much they like me, why they like me and how pretty I am. Its not my ego, its just my personality. I really just like to feel like I’m number one.

DWH always did that for me, we knew the role we had in each others lives, as crazy as he is, he would get close to me and hold me and make me feel beautiful all over. I appreciate that more than words. That’s all I ever wanted was someone to actually provide me with attention and affection.

So ultimately that’s my love language in pursuing relationships with people, I don’t feel loved if I’m not getting the attention I think I’m fully deserving of. No matter how busy you are, if you take the time to give me attention, it goes a very long way for me. It doesn’t have to be seeing me everyday, but a text, a call just to keep in constant contact is what I need in a relationship.

I talked to my ex yesterday and we both talked about the parts of our relationship that we loved. Everyday we would text all day. When he would be on lunch break he would call me, when he got off I would see him. We never felt smothered because we spoke each others love language.. Although, we didn’t work out, we both understood that a few words here and there didn’t mean much, we both needed to see the actions of love in affection form.

I know I discuss love languages all the time but it is extremely vital in a relationship. If you don’t give me the attention I need, it makes me feel unloved and unwanted.

30min phone calls once a day that only exist to talk about how our days were aren’t enough.. But I’m being patient.

How do you feel when your love language is returned void by the person you want to understand u?

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My Online Dating Experience

18 Aug

I have been struggling on wether to write this blog, I don’t mind being transparent if it may improve the lives of those around me, but my dating woes are a bit complex.However, I am already starting to feel some sort of inner release just by the excitement from this post.

Hello… My Name is Jenee…And I am an On-Line Dater

You got it right, I have once been a member of Black People Meet, EHarmony, Match.com, and even Plenty of Fish. Today is not the day to give a review on these sites but I will say this, all of them have their own pros/cons.

At 1 point about 3 months ago, I got addicted to Online dating. I checked my various sites more than my email. When matches or messages came to my e-mail I read them almost instantly. On-line gave me a thrill, way more of a thrill than regular dating did. I was almost at the point of insanity with regular dating. Men didn’t approach me, when and if they did they were straight DUDs who didnt care obviously.  But online dating was my way of dating hundreds of men without ever giving my number out!

1st Eharmony made me answer about 1000 in-depth questions and they matched me with my high school crushed.Needless to say, we hit it off hard. He really showed me a few things and we “dated” for a few months and realized we were better equipped as friends. We were very compatible and I often wonder how out of the thousands of people on eharmony we were matched. Call it coincidence or call it fate.but we are still great friends to this day. The details to this ordeal still makes me sad….lol

I went on a few dates with others I met on various sites and none of the dates went any further than a few phone calls,or dinners or nights on the town.. Until I met “Him”For months I kept pushing him away, I wasn’t quite sure about him. He was from NYC, a Sigma and he wasn’t my usual corporate thug. But I’m a firm believer that  When You Want Something You Have Never Had You Must Do What You Have Never Done. So, I gave him a chance and yall he is courting me! He hasn’t tried to rush anything and is truly trying to get to know me, ya girl is no longer single! :)

Needless to say, On-line dating has been a life changing experience and I am glad I did it! I’m an advocate for all of the above websites, there isn’t much too loose from trying!! So for all the black people wonder, there are hundreds of fine, successful men with no kids, no drama and who want to get married online dating. They don’t club on the regular or have a lot of issues. They just want someone to love!

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Hearbreak still exsist, it doesnt get better with age.

7 Aug

No matter how old we get we will always experience heartache. From the 1st time our parents tell us we can’t have something to the 1st time the 1 boy we like decides he doesn’t want us.

And I know when we get our hearts broken the 1st things people say are “You don’t need him/her you can do bad by yourself” or “You will find someone better”. Honestly there is nothing that heals heartache but time. No matter whom else comes alone or what anyone says, the pain from a broken heart can live with us eternally. Maybe its a matter of rejection.

I often wonder why those who left me or those who wanted to spend all of their time with me decided they didn’t want to be with me. I know we all do it, we ask “what’s wrong with me? Why doesn’t he/she want me” and I know someone has said “its not you but its the idiot who dumped you’s fault” but often I wonder what can be learned from breakups? Can the man/woman tell their significant other/friend what really made them leave? Can that help improve their next possible relationship. I know things like appearance, style, mannerisms and physical attributes have nothing to do with the “dumpee” and more to deal with the “dumper” but I honestly want to know why my exs cheated or left, because I’m always trying to be a better person. Or maybe not even my “ex” but the guy I was very much interested in and spent a great deal of time with, why he only wanted to be my friend.

I know what you are thinking, you are probably giving a million excuses for the man, “maybe he wasn’t ready for a relationship.” “Maybe he wasn’t the one” “Its all God’s plane” I don’t care so much about the “leaving part” as I do for the reasoning. I wish some men/women were bold enough to say things like “I really liked you, but you just didn’t light my fire” or “I really liked spending time with you, but I’m not attracted to you” or even “I’m not ready for a relationship, I don’t want to waste your time”

I would just love to hear reasons so it can improve my life. Wouldn’t u?

He….

23 Jul

I didn’t think anyone was able

to make my world feel like a fable

Or kiss my soul

and make me whole

But he touched my spirit,

and kissed my being.

He filled my body with such substantial meaning

It wasn’t just his touch

I wasn’t trying to make him my physical crutch

but the feelings I get

when our minds take make a trip

into our own cosmic universe

that makes my whole being feel immersed

when his lips are pressed against mine

it always tickles my spine

Taking the first step into his metaphysical being

I now know seeing is believing

Our souls create this secret erotic dance

We are both seeking wonder and romance

My inner moans are full of fiery desire

he touches me in spots

that lift my body higher

I wanted to end this irreproachable torture

My body was going through endless hunger

She wanted to know if we  could get on with passion’s play

But my mind told her to walk away.

As my spirit was in constant fluster

He pulled my mouth to his in a subtle gesture

As he  fulfilled my innermost desires

I felt my spirit going higher

We were both in passionate need,

my tongue was ready to feed

We were guilty by association

Both animals and God’s sexual manifestations

Our bodies got closer

was this a  paradox of our hearts real emotions

Closer to each other in mind, body and soul

I wanted all of him and I lost all control

All my  secrets were  unveiled

Every thought was revealed

This absolute emmersion

was because he………..

Sunday.. We heard the news

18 Jul

I write the blogs for the people, but this is for me.

I’m such a genuine person, I give my all to people. Even if I just met you, I give you my all and I don’t know why I do it. It is so innate in me to just give of myself to people. I don’t expect anything in return because my riches aren’t on earth. Every time  someone burns me, I say I’m not going to do for them but then I turn around and do more. I love people, and I know God will bless me. am I wrong for wanting to be loved in return by someone other than my family and close girlfriends? Can somebody please volunteer to do something for me for once?

I’ve always been an independent woman, but I’m not out preaching that to people.  I care more about love. So what happened to the lovers? are there no more lovers? Or is that extinct these days?

No I’m not trying to rush into a relationship, I believe in courting. no I’m not going to have casual sex, no I’m not dating multiple people, no I’m not perfect but I am perfect for someone. No you don’t have to make hundreds of thousands of dollars.  No, I am not picky, but I won’t settle. Yes I can cook, and I probably will cook for you too soon. Yes I’m emotionally needy and yes I’m super honest. Yes I am too nice, yes I give too much of myself. Yes I lack motivation sometimes. Yes I plan everyone around me’s birthdays, and events free of charge and I love it!! Yes, I graduated from college, worked for many major companies, but I’m still confused as to my purpose. Yes, I love too much, love too fast and love love. No, I won’t come to your house, I’m a lady. Yes, I let the wrong people into my heart, shoot me. Yes, I can be gullible and clueless but I trust God above all he always hears my prayer!!  yes men and women tell me everyday that I am  pretty but i didn’t think i was till about 3 years ago. Yes, I’ve only had 4 boyfriends in life, all of whom still love me. No, I’m not a virgin, but yes I’m celibate. No I’m not crazy, or psycho. Yes, I have southern values and traditional ways and its rare to find someone I even like enough to date.. Yes, I fell for the wrong man, and yes he broke my heart and he didn’t even know it. Yes, I gave too much of myself, but I won’t regret it. Yes, its a never ending cycle and yes i know love will eventually find me. I tried the aggressive approach and it failed me. So now I’m in hiding until real love finds me.. whenever that is…

This probably doesn’t make since to anyone and its probably no where near as complex as I am, but its my real thoughts online and it has given me some sort of peace in the middle of this storm..

Monday we held it together and..
Wednesday we had stormy weather and..
Friday we prayed it all better and..
Sunday we heard the news.

Etiquette 101

24 Jun

I’m mad! Do you know why; Because people in 2010 have NO ETIQUETTE! Maybe they were never taught, or maybe they just don’t care but the point is, the standards are HORRIBLE!! People please learn the essentials of Etiquette before you die; it can take you so far!

I’m thinking about holding an etiquette class for people ages 18-30 because these YALL ARE THE MAIN  CULPRITS! Children know how to say please and thank you, grandmas and aunties know how to be nice to others and speak when they walk into any establishment but MY AGE GROUP simply has no regard for rules or regulations or simply what it means to be nice.

In case you didn’t know, Etiquette is: the customs or rules governing behavior regarded as correct or acceptable in social or official life

Top 5 Etiquette Rules

According to Miss. Jenee

1. WHEN YOU ARE INVITED SOMEWHERE BRING A GIFT, A TOKEN OR AN ITEM.

My people, my people, if someone invites you to their home, their birthday party or even to a dinner party even if you maybe paying for your own food, bring a gift!! That host has taken time, money and care to plan this event and a note or card should be the LEAST you can do to show your gratitude! Yall KILL me coming to somebody’s party at their house and not even having a card, you bring your boys, you bring your man but you don’t even bring a 2 for $1.o0  card from the Dollar Store! You come eat somebody’s food, DRANK THEY DRANK, but can’t even stop at Kroger to bring a $6.00 bottle of wine! It does not MATTER what the event is! It takes hard work and time to plan something and you should always show your gratitude! The next time I have an event and people don’t bring anything, they won’t get in. PERIOD. Call it rude, but how rude is it to expect something free and you didn’t put anything into it. Bring some ice, some cards, something! Shoot

2. CORRECT CLOTHING

Okay, men and women get a lot of slack about appropriate dress but here is the reality, THERE SHOULD NEVER be a time where you think its okay to wear jeans or shorts to a wedding, a reception, a dinner party. Seriously guys, I know, you get tired of dressing up at work and for everything in your life, but I don’t think there is any woman who thinks its cute for a man to wear jeans and a t-shirt to a restaurant other than Red Lobster, Chillis or Applebees. Now don’t get me wrong, there are some times you may want to wear the hard bottoms and the button up with a pair of jeans. That CAN be acceptable. BUT WHY IN GOD’S GREEN EARTH, do you think it’s okay to wear jeans under your behind to a restaurant where the food is $30 a person?!? PLEASE TELL ME WHERE YOUR MAMA IS?! WOMEN TOO! Since when was it ok to walk into church with the back out of your dress! Seriously! I know we want to think “We are in church, come as you are” but seriously, you should ALWAYS give God your BEST! You get dressed up to go to the club and to work, why can’t you slip on a nice dress that covers your body and worship God! I can’t stand when I see a grown woman with a halter top dress on at church. Its cute for Sunday Brunch if you wear a cardigan over it for church! Not cute to have all your breasts out for every man to concentrate on! Word to the wise, if you question it, don’t wear it. END OF STORY

3. Thank You Cards

If someone gives you something THANK THEM. You can get a pack of 5 Thank you cards at the DOLLAR TREE FOR $1.00. MY GOODNESS! Even after an interview you should send a card, just to say thank you for their time. If you can’t afford to get someone a gift, a THANK YOU CARD for even taking the time to invite you is awesome. You may say people don’t want a little card, but when was the last time you received a card in the mail, wait, when was the last time you received something in the mail other than bills and advertisements! Hand written notes and thank you cards still have a lot of value in 2010. Try it and I promise it will work!

4. Being Late

I’ll admit, I’m late to most events, normally because I have 1000 other things going on and getting there on time is not at the top of my priority list because I have other imperative tasks to complete in a day. My day’s all run together and getting to a friend’s dinner party will happen but I’ll probably be late. But the reality is. THAT IS SUPER SUPER RUDE! IF AN EVENT STARTS AT 6 BE THERE AT 6, NOT 6:30 OR 8:00. Somebody has taken a lot of time to prepare and arrange this event and the fact that you can’t be on time, is rude to not only the host but everyone at the event. So many times, I have had to wait 30 minutes to eat because somebody is late to dinner and everyone can’t be seated until the entire party is there!! grrr

5. Tipping

I have to get on a lot of people close to me about this, because it is 1 of my pet peeves. Whenever someone provides a service to you the least you can do is Tip them. THIS INCLUDES YOUR EYEBROW GIRL, YOUR NAIL LADY, YOUR HAIR STYLIST, YOUR BARBER! The nail tech/pedicurist is scrubbing your feet and you give her $1.00!! That’s about what you give the homeless man on the street!!! There are sometimes when a person has been rude, but I still tip her/him 15% of the bill. Tipping is REQUIRED people. Not an option, there is NOTHING cute to me about going on a date with a man and him tipping a waitress $5.oo for a $60.00 meal. WHAT IN THE WORLD. This woman has answered all 100 of your questions, been polite to you, brought out all of your food, stood on her feet for 2hours bringing you drinks and you give her $5.00. So her hourly rate for you is $7.00. GTFOH. she only makes $2.13 since as a waitress and usually her tips have to be shared with the buss boy and the hostess. Just as an FYI, if strippers live off tips so do waitresses. Shout out to the strippers, but even if a dude didn’t “like” the dance, he doesn’t get out of tipping/paying up, if he doesn’t tip he won’t get the dance! But when you are a waitress you HAVE to serve the person. You never know she/he may be on their 2nd job trying to take care of their kids, you are their 20th table of the day and they are just tired!!! If someone is extra great as a waitress, or has awesome food, I usually tip 20%. When my nail tech does an extra good job, I’ll tip her 30%. 15% is REQUIRED!!! MMKKKK

Well this is all for now, I’m gonna make my blood pressure go up because of these Etiquette rules, but please say nobody told you! Cause Jenee did!!

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