The last guy I dated we will call him Eastside was special to me. Maybe it was his gap, or his crazy laugh or maybe it was the way he would hold me close. Whatever it was he had me open. We really never had a title or rules. All he asked of me was honesty and all I asked of him was attention, and affection. That’s really all I want from any guy I date. Attention and Affection and Admiration.
I’m a Leo in every form or fashion. I like to be in charge, I love to look nice, I love to be held and kissed and I like for someone to tell me how much they like me, why they like me and how pretty I am. Its not my ego, its just my personality. I really just like to feel like I’m number one.
DWH always did that for me, we knew the role we had in each others lives, as crazy as he is, he would get close to me and hold me and make me feel beautiful all over. I appreciate that more than words. That’s all I ever wanted was someone to actually provide me with attention and affection.
So ultimately that’s my love language in pursuing relationships with people, I don’t feel loved if I’m not getting the attention I think I’m fully deserving of. No matter how busy you are, if you take the time to give me attention, it goes a very long way for me. It doesn’t have to be seeing me everyday, but a text, a call just to keep in constant contact is what I need in a relationship.
I talked to my ex yesterday and we both talked about the parts of our relationship that we loved. Everyday we would text all day. When he would be on lunch break he would call me, when he got off I would see him. We never felt smothered because we spoke each others love language.. Although, we didn’t work out, we both understood that a few words here and there didn’t mean much, we both needed to see the actions of love in affection form.
I know I discuss love languages all the time but it is extremely vital in a relationship. If you don’t give me the attention I need, it makes me feel unloved and unwanted.
30min phone calls once a day that only exist to talk about how our days were aren’t enough.. But I’m being patient.
How do you feel when your love language is returned void by the person you want to understand u?
Tags: affection, attention, love language
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