No matter how old we get we will always experience heartache. From the 1st time our parents tell us we can’t have something to the 1st time the 1 boy we like decides he doesn’t want us.
And I know when we get our hearts broken the 1st things people say are “You don’t need him/her you can do bad by yourself” or “You will find someone better”. Honestly there is nothing that heals heartache but time. No matter whom else comes alone or what anyone says, the pain from a broken heart can live with us eternally. Maybe its a matter of rejection.
I often wonder why those who left me or those who wanted to spend all of their time with me decided they didn’t want to be with me. I know we all do it, we ask “what’s wrong with me? Why doesn’t he/she want me” and I know someone has said “its not you but its the idiot who dumped you’s fault” but often I wonder what can be learned from breakups? Can the man/woman tell their significant other/friend what really made them leave? Can that help improve their next possible relationship. I know things like appearance, style, mannerisms and physical attributes have nothing to do with the “dumpee” and more to deal with the “dumper” but I honestly want to know why my exs cheated or left, because I’m always trying to be a better person. Or maybe not even my “ex” but the guy I was very much interested in and spent a great deal of time with, why he only wanted to be my friend.
I know what you are thinking, you are probably giving a million excuses for the man, “maybe he wasn’t ready for a relationship.” “Maybe he wasn’t the one” “Its all God’s plane” I don’t care so much about the “leaving part” as I do for the reasoning. I wish some men/women were bold enough to say things like “I really liked you, but you just didn’t light my fire” or “I really liked spending time with you, but I’m not attracted to you” or even “I’m not ready for a relationship, I don’t want to waste your time”
I would just love to hear reasons so it can improve my life. Wouldn’t u?
