One of my Favorite songs in the whole world is Flaws and All by Beyonce
The lyrics are:
I’m a train wreck in the morning
I’m a bitch in the afternoon
Every now and then without warning
I can be really mean towards youI’m a puzzle yes indeed
Ever complex in every way
And all the pieces aren’t even in the box
And yet you see the picture clear as dayI don’t know why you love me
And that’s why I love you
You catch me when I fall
Accept me, flaws and all
And that’s why I love youI neglect you when I’m working
When I need attention I tend to nag
I’m a host of imperfection
And you see past all thatI’m a peasant by some standards
But in your eyes I’m a queen
You see potential in all my flaws
And that’s exactly what I needI don’t know why you love me
And that’s why I love you
You catch me when I fall
Accept me, flaws and all
And that’s why I love you
These lyrics have been in my head for days. Literally everyday for the past 3 days I have been singing this song. I cried a little while singing this song because I really exemplify it. Yes I always need attention so when I don’t have it, I nag. Yes, without warning I can be a total bitch and just be mean to you. But thats me. It doesn’t mean I’m seriously mad at you or that I just dislike you, it just mean either with hormones, emotions or because I am having a bad day I may just be mean to you. But please believe if I love you and I want you around that “meanness” will go away in your presence. But thats ME. I try my hardest to be nice when I’m going through my “stuff” but the devil really gets the best of me. But thats what love is all about. Accepting a person flaws and all.
People do the craziest things: Example I had a friend who used to shave his hair and leave hair ALL over ther floor! His girlfriend HATED it but she always swept up after him because he really never learned how. Another example, my friend used to constantly talk about how fat she was, to me and everyone else she was not “fat” she was just “healthy” her boyfriend did everything in his power help her see that she was “perfect” for him. Eventually she stopped calling herself fat, lost weight and really understood what he had been saying the entire time. Those are flaws, none of us are perfect. Ever.
Yes I cook, I clean, Im a HELL of a business woman but I can get insane sometimes and be totally mean for no reason.. Thats my flaw, some people have left me because of it, some have ignored it, some people just dealt with it..because they knew it was temporary. Somebody is crazy to love me like this, but someone will. Someone will really love me for me and I know it! Love endures all.
Have you ever been in a pissy mood at work and then you go on lunch and you talk to the person you love and all becomes better? Or you have had a rough couple of days and the person you really, really love surprises you and shows up. All that hurt and upset you had with yourself and even displayed with that person erases.
Thats what love is, love is being able to accept someone flaws and all. Not everyone can handle my nags, some take it as nagging while whomever becomes my husband will understand its only because I really need to be around him and want attention from him.
Love catches you when you fall, love understands the hurt you have felt before and love works hard to make it better. Even more importantly Love knows that the meanness or the nagging is just a shadow for something deeper.
My mom’s sermon this morning came right on time! In her message she said: “Our so called begging is our God-given ability to petition. We know how to ask some questions. We are petitioners by nature. our so called nagging is not nagging, it’s called persistence. It’s the tenaciousness, that makes women not take no for an answer.Our pain is our power, not because it causes you to pay attention, but because it draws us closer to God. Human beings are the only species that cry emotional tears. women have to cry sometimes cause the men in our lives wont ever cry during their pain”
The thing with our pain and our persistance and our pertitions is that they all are rooted innately in us. I got pain, my best friend got pain, my sister got pain, even my mama as a Rev. has pain. But its our job as women to hide the pain because we have to be strong for our men.
But sometimes the world has whipped us so that the pain takes over us and we let satan win! Thats a flaw in our human makeup…Not every man can deal with a woman crying, or nagging or being persistent. But the man that God sends for you will understand thats your flaw and love you flaws and all..
Beyonce found Jay’z. Beyonce lays her FLAWS out plain in this song. Shoot I know some of you who wouldn’t even DATE Jay’Z because you think he is ugly! Or Beyonce because as soon as she spent one day away from you she starting nagging about seeing you again! Barack found Michelle! He was her INTERN, he smoked cigarettes and he didn’t even want to MARRY her.Their flaws make them who they are and look at them they are SOULMATES! They loved each other and were willing to accept each other FLAWS AND ALL!
My pain, my nagging and my attitude will subside and trust me I’ve learned from doing it in a previous relationship! No man wants to hear that all the time especially when he has his own issues!! But my love will always remain..As the love of my life I pray hope whomever gets involved with me sees that!
I’m praying and I know God will send that kind of man into my life! I pray more that you won’t settle and understand that there is a man or woman that will accept you FLAWS and All and love you at your BEST and at your WORST
“I’m a puzzle yes indeed, ever complex in EVERY WAY”
This is very powerful and “every” man should read it very carefully and think twice the next time their woman is havin one of “those” “days or moments”!!
Girll this post is very deep and really made me think.
GOD is truly GOOD…he knows what’s good for us and who he wants in our lives.
If someone was in your life and aren’t anymore is because GOD already knows he/she’s not meant for you.
So to find that person who really accept us for our flaws and all would be here soon..
Not a beyonve fan but some of her songs really are really helpful and gives me hope that that’s life..it’ll be alright!
I’m so glad that I read your blog. I really needed this, thank you : )
I appreciate you all more than you know! ♥ Your comments!
This is a great post! I may need to forward this to my wife. The only person who can get on my last nerve one minute…then make me fall in love with her all over again in the next minute.
We all have our moments. There’s no doubt in my mind that you’ll find that man who is right for you. Stay focused and stay in prayer. Once you find him, keep in mind that you have to work even harder to keep him.