“We were never meant to be, baby we just happened”
”This is bad,real bad Michael Jackson”
Kanye West hit the nail on the head in his verse of “Knock You Down” by Keri Hilson. What happens when you know you aren’t supposed to “be” but you just end up “being”
Don’t front! You know the situation. You start off really casual, and just chilling from time to time & then all of a sudden, you are with each other everyday. You’ve met each others families etc.
Your intention was never to “fall” for him/her but you did and before it was too late you had an “accidental relationship”.
Most times in an “accidental relationship” people don’t understand how to keep their roles, they usually end up really bad or they end up to be the loves of their life.
Example-I have a friend who we will call ”Monique” Mo, dated this guy for almost a year, casually they went out, chilled etc. Then 1 day things got a tad bit more serious. She couldn’t stand to be with anyone but him, he was introduced to her family, they saw each other everyday. She often found herself doing things that “girlfriends” do, like cooking for him, helping him in his personal endeavors, having pillow talk about life. How all of a sudden did the guy who was just a “cutt buddy” turn into her boyfriend?
Although, neither acknowledged it, Monique was in a relationship & didn’t even know it. I even asked Mo how is your boyfriend “Paul”. And her reply was “what boyfriend” I laughed it off but the next day Monique came to me and said, “I really never meant to be more than a cut buddy to Paul, I’m not trying to be in a relationship with him, but considering all the things we do, we are dating seriously, without the title.
I told her the situation was sticky but keep me informed. I had been there and wasn’t trying to define what she should and shouldn’t do.
I’m very big on knowing your role and staying there, but this situation is quite complex. How do you even know your role and not cross it? Its like leasing a vehicle, you can drive it all you want but it will never truly be yours!
So I ask; Have you ever been in an “accidental relationship” what was the result of it? Did you eventually ask the other to be your mate? Will the other know their role?
